To be, or not to be, childfree? The only question that matters

To be a parent is to be physically and emotionally present, 24/7/365, for a person who relies on you for every need, for a minimum of 18 years and possibly for life. 

Would nurturing someone on that level be fulfilling enough for you to make that lifetime commitment?

If the answer is no, or even maybe, then you shouldn't have children. Children deserve to be wanted and loved. They deserve a 100% yes.

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